Just stumbled on this little site
http://www.gamingpassions.com/
Apparently its a dating site for gamers.
Oh cool, this could be promising.... then i did a search for girls in NYC.
there were 5 total, only 3 of them had pics and only one of them was cute. LOL
Tuesday, June 5, 2007
We talkin bout practice
Iverson said it best, its not about the game, its about practice!
So in order to maximize my online dating experience, I'll need some practice (NOT A GAME). So i did what just about what anyone would do - i googled stuff like "online dating tips" and tried to weed through and learns from some of the results. First and foremost, just like nightclubs, a lot of these sights ask you to pay the money before you can get their help (at least their help is a little more direct). But here is some free stuff that i found
About.com's free tips
Summary - take time in making your profile, create a cool alias that reflects who you are (i am soooo gonna be BobbyLashley69 lol), create an attention grabbing headline on the front page (you say your name is finlay and you love to fight, i say your name is finlay and you're a bathturd), describe yourself truthfully (i love games, wrestling and beer and I'm only here to get laid), say something personal (THIS IS ACTUALLY FROM THEIR SITE - "From a big family, want to make one together?" LOL), draw them in with creativity ("Just finished school. Finish this sentence: I want to have ____?" - LOL once again from the site), use subtlety in describing your dislikes, don't write too fucking much, don't be an emo kid, don't brag, just let your writing do the work for you, and don't mislead (No thats not a picture of my head on John Cena's body, thats totally me).
I looked at a few other sites, and they were either book promotions or had similar advice. so now its time to get to thinking (and picture taking).
But that leaves me with a lasting thought - exactly how much truth should i really reveal? I mean should i do it in increments? On the profile I'll quietly mention occasional gaming... but neglect to say that i find it perfectly normal to play Soul Calibur with my crew on a Saturday night :-)
Stay tuned.
So in order to maximize my online dating experience, I'll need some practice (NOT A GAME). So i did what just about what anyone would do - i googled stuff like "online dating tips" and tried to weed through and learns from some of the results. First and foremost, just like nightclubs, a lot of these sights ask you to pay the money before you can get their help (at least their help is a little more direct). But here is some free stuff that i found
About.com's free tips
Summary - take time in making your profile, create a cool alias that reflects who you are (i am soooo gonna be BobbyLashley69 lol), create an attention grabbing headline on the front page (you say your name is finlay and you love to fight, i say your name is finlay and you're a bathturd), describe yourself truthfully (i love games, wrestling and beer and I'm only here to get laid), say something personal (THIS IS ACTUALLY FROM THEIR SITE - "From a big family, want to make one together?" LOL), draw them in with creativity ("Just finished school. Finish this sentence: I want to have ____?" - LOL once again from the site), use subtlety in describing your dislikes, don't write too fucking much, don't be an emo kid, don't brag, just let your writing do the work for you, and don't mislead (No thats not a picture of my head on John Cena's body, thats totally me).
I looked at a few other sites, and they were either book promotions or had similar advice. so now its time to get to thinking (and picture taking).
But that leaves me with a lasting thought - exactly how much truth should i really reveal? I mean should i do it in increments? On the profile I'll quietly mention occasional gaming... but neglect to say that i find it perfectly normal to play Soul Calibur with my crew on a Saturday night :-)
Stay tuned.
Monday, June 4, 2007
Research
Ok, right now i am in the research phase of my plan, i am trying to figure out what i should sign up for and how should i make my profile. The front runner right now is Match.com just because of the sheer amount of people on that thing. Ill keep updating.... And playing Lumines 2..... and updating ^_^
Why Clubs Suck
A lot of people ask me why i want to dive into online dating when NYC has such a massive nightlife club and bar scene. Very simple - that "scene" for the most part is nothing but a very large business designed to suck out a man's hard working money and the only time it will get you laid is if you're Justin Timberlake or P Diddy.
Here is a very good list of why clubs suck:
1 - The music is too loud - Ever see the supposed girl of your dreams across the room and then start SCREAMING sweet nothings in her ear. She thinks you're a loud mouth psycho with beer on your breath. Which leads me to the next point.
2 - if you want ANY convenience, get ready to pay a LOT - want to sit down? Well then, you're going to have to get bottle service. Yes, that 30 dollar bottle of vodka from the liquor store is being sold for 250 dollars. By the way did we say its a 2 bottle minimum? Thats all good, go mack to that hottie by STANDING the entire time, good luck sucker.
3 - good luck getting in - The door at night clubs is worse than the admission to Harvard Law. Heres some actual quotes from bouncers as well as party promos:
"Gentlemen: 2 bottle min. thats the key" - see above
" but don't bring a lot of guys with you or else they will not let u in without asking u to purchase a table" - so let me get this straight, i gotta already KNOW girls in order to get into a club to GET girls. If i knew so many girls i wouldn't need clubs.
"General Racism" - Youtube vid about racism at the door for proof.
"No sneakers, jeans, jerseys (you know, the stuff black guys wear)" - subtle racism
"you're gonna have to find another place guys" - "wait wasnt i ON the list and didnt i just say i wanted to buy a damn overpriced bottle?". "you're gonna have to find another place guys"
4 - Dane Cook said it best - just because a girl is in the club does NOT mean she wants to meet people (or single for that matter). Maybe she just wants to DAAANCE.
5 - Age, cause MILFs gotta party too - i really don't wanna talk to 35 year olds.
6 - Crowds - in many clubs, make sure you're GOLDEN when hitting on a girl, because with all the crowds there is no chance in hell that you will move from your little spot until about 30 minutes later.
7 - the strip club 2 blocks down the street- you're drunk and noone was feeling you - time to go blow off steam at the strip club. And then you wake up the next day wondering why your credit card is declined everywhere
8 - "Just because im dressed this way does not make me a ho". just because i dress up like a police officer does NOT make me a police officer
9 - "They treat people like shit there? i am SOOO there" - isn it odd how the most and the hottest girls are always in the clubs where they treat people the worse?
Thats just the stuff that i can think of off the top of my head, but yeah clubs suck, except for the fact that there are hot women in them
Here is a very good list of why clubs suck:
1 - The music is too loud - Ever see the supposed girl of your dreams across the room and then start SCREAMING sweet nothings in her ear. She thinks you're a loud mouth psycho with beer on your breath. Which leads me to the next point.
2 - if you want ANY convenience, get ready to pay a LOT - want to sit down? Well then, you're going to have to get bottle service. Yes, that 30 dollar bottle of vodka from the liquor store is being sold for 250 dollars. By the way did we say its a 2 bottle minimum? Thats all good, go mack to that hottie by STANDING the entire time, good luck sucker.
3 - good luck getting in - The door at night clubs is worse than the admission to Harvard Law. Heres some actual quotes from bouncers as well as party promos:
"Gentlemen: 2 bottle min. thats the key" - see above
" but don't bring a lot of guys with you or else they will not let u in without asking u to purchase a table" - so let me get this straight, i gotta already KNOW girls in order to get into a club to GET girls. If i knew so many girls i wouldn't need clubs.
"General Racism" - Youtube vid about racism at the door for proof.
"No sneakers, jeans, jerseys (you know, the stuff black guys wear)" - subtle racism
"you're gonna have to find another place guys" - "wait wasnt i ON the list and didnt i just say i wanted to buy a damn overpriced bottle?". "you're gonna have to find another place guys"
4 - Dane Cook said it best - just because a girl is in the club does NOT mean she wants to meet people (or single for that matter). Maybe she just wants to DAAANCE.
5 - Age, cause MILFs gotta party too - i really don't wanna talk to 35 year olds.
6 - Crowds - in many clubs, make sure you're GOLDEN when hitting on a girl, because with all the crowds there is no chance in hell that you will move from your little spot until about 30 minutes later.
7 - the strip club 2 blocks down the street- you're drunk and noone was feeling you - time to go blow off steam at the strip club. And then you wake up the next day wondering why your credit card is declined everywhere
8 - "Just because im dressed this way does not make me a ho". just because i dress up like a police officer does NOT make me a police officer
9 - "They treat people like shit there? i am SOOO there" - isn it odd how the most and the hottest girls are always in the clubs where they treat people the worse?
Thats just the stuff that i can think of off the top of my head, but yeah clubs suck, except for the fact that there are hot women in them
A Little Introduction to Me
Hi everyone, my name is Spyder (well, not really), and i am really really fed up with the whole "dating game".
First off here's a little background - im 22, living in Manhattan (NYC), a college grad from a really great school, an avid gamer, originally from Russia and i am definitely not ugly. I have a good job, amazing friends and an awesome family life. Yet for the longest time i have been having an absurd amount of trouble meeting girls.
Why? Don't you meet then through friends?
My friends are mostly gamer dudes that don't meet that many girls in general, so they are mostly on the same boat as me or do not want to share.
Don't you meet them through work?
I am one of the youngest people at my job.
What about going out to bars and clubs?
Don't get me started, ill get to that later
Come on, you live in New York City, isn't that supposed to be the area with The highest number of single women to single men?
Well, out of all of that, take nice pretty smart non psycho girls that live a reasonable distance away from me, as well as in my preferred age range, i am POSITIVE those numbers will change. In short, statistics lie.
Why are you so emo?
I'm not, an emo kid would just go and cry about it, i have a solution.
And the solution is simple, im going to try online dating.
"Thats not new or radical", you might say, and you'd be right. Online dating has become a huge and ever expanding business, with new sites and success stories popping up left and right. It's now pretty acceptable to use such services to meet people. However, im a 22 year old guy, and would like to date girls that are 18-24, which is usually not the type of girls that you would expect to find on such sites. A lot of times, for females at least, it becomes acceptable to try online dating in their late twenties and early thirties, but who has ever heard of a 21 year old super hottie looking for dates online? Thats right noone. I however hope to prove that wrong.
So in the next couple of days my plan is to join one of these sites, post up some pictures or whatever else those profiles need and wait and see what happens. This blog will be dedicated to my adventures with online dating and dating in general, i look forward to sharing my stories, past and present, with everyone.
First off here's a little background - im 22, living in Manhattan (NYC), a college grad from a really great school, an avid gamer, originally from Russia and i am definitely not ugly. I have a good job, amazing friends and an awesome family life. Yet for the longest time i have been having an absurd amount of trouble meeting girls.
Why? Don't you meet then through friends?
My friends are mostly gamer dudes that don't meet that many girls in general, so they are mostly on the same boat as me or do not want to share.
Don't you meet them through work?
I am one of the youngest people at my job.
What about going out to bars and clubs?
Don't get me started, ill get to that later
Come on, you live in New York City, isn't that supposed to be the area with The highest number of single women to single men?
Well, out of all of that, take nice pretty smart non psycho girls that live a reasonable distance away from me, as well as in my preferred age range, i am POSITIVE those numbers will change. In short, statistics lie.
Why are you so emo?
I'm not, an emo kid would just go and cry about it, i have a solution.
And the solution is simple, im going to try online dating.
"Thats not new or radical", you might say, and you'd be right. Online dating has become a huge and ever expanding business, with new sites and success stories popping up left and right. It's now pretty acceptable to use such services to meet people. However, im a 22 year old guy, and would like to date girls that are 18-24, which is usually not the type of girls that you would expect to find on such sites. A lot of times, for females at least, it becomes acceptable to try online dating in their late twenties and early thirties, but who has ever heard of a 21 year old super hottie looking for dates online? Thats right noone. I however hope to prove that wrong.
So in the next couple of days my plan is to join one of these sites, post up some pictures or whatever else those profiles need and wait and see what happens. This blog will be dedicated to my adventures with online dating and dating in general, i look forward to sharing my stories, past and present, with everyone.
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